Love and love languages

I don’t know if this is talked about enough or not but constantly feeling unloved by someone who loves you because they don’t love you in your love language really is draining .              An individual may or may not communicate what their signified love language is . In some instances the recipient does communicate on different occasions what pleases them but the benefactor (partner) may not listen or act on what they are told .                                 Now I’m not sure if this means the benefactor does not care enough or does not pay attention or is just reluctant to the actuality of love languages, but what I’m sure of is  if  they are completely not considered , the recipient feels unwanted, unloved and frustrated. Most times this causes serious problems in the relationship and further results into partners seeking for attention from other people which may be a keyway to unfaithfulness.                                  The recipient feels particularly hurt or upset when they see their partner offer these acts to others. One thing to note is another keyway to

unfaithfulness is when the benefactor is offering acts of love to others but reluctant to their partner. Now one would say this doesn’t matter but you ought to know that as humans we are different , sometimes simple, sometimes complex. It is important to find ways of communicating as one in a relationship. It is always necessary to learn to listen and understand for two people to reach a census.   Remember how the men in the bible could not finish the tower of babal because they all spoke different languages, this can apply to this too.if you don’t learn to speak the language of your partner and they also don’t learn your language building together will be difficult .                                                      Small things will create mountains of solid matter that once had zero magnitude.                        As a girl that has not lived long enough on earth, here’s my thought;                                Take time to ask your partner what their love language is and as a partner be open to share your love language to them. This will not only help you and your partner feel loved but also seen.